A father telephoned me and said that he and his wife could not cope with their daughter’s habit any longer – and would I see the girl.
I said yes – only if you ask first – that she will want to choose to see me. Her choice of course. She was aged 15 at the time. She could have been age 8, the same applies, it must, even for a youngster, be their choice.
She wanted to speak with me on the phone first, and check me out. At the end of our nearly an hour on the phone she said she thought: I was Mint! How ace is that!
She did – I am happy to say want to – come along to see me, do some Work with me.
I did say on the phone that my half an hour a day for 40 CD or MP3 course

Gain Self Esteem & Self Confidence  would work for her. She said she wanted to see me!
The parents brought the girl – They said that she constantly, everywhere chewed on her tongue – which was really annoying to them. The point is: Did it really annoy the girl and did she want to cease, not especially for her parents ‘peace of mind’ – did she want to stop for her self. Fortunately (for the parents) that was her goal.
I told the parents that they must leave the room so that the girl and I could Work in private.
We Worked on – what was driving her tongue chewing habit – we discovered that her problem was her annoyance at certain others. She wasn’t annoyed with her parents by the way. We did some very clean elegant Work on resolving her annoyance
Next I wanted to be able to really access her Annoyance – so -
I said: “YOU ARE PATHETIC”
And the kid really got annoyed and chewed harder and harder on her tongue.
I went on to say:
“ Can – YOU BE CLEVER – and stop wasting your tongue chewing everywhere and on everyone.”
I said: “Decide who really annoys you. Then every evening sit as close as you can to your parents – and chew your tongue – really hard – for seventeen minutes.
Watch the time – watch your watch – or watch the clock – make it seventeen minutes.
Be noisy – do it properly with all the gusto you’ve got. You could growl and snarl.
If you cannot sit next to both parents – then you will have to do them one at a time.
That way – YOU CAN BE SMART – and – BE CONFIDENT.
You can chew hard – and growl and snarl for thirty-four minutes – every evening.
Each day at school – choose one of those people that annoys you – BE SMART – don’t waste your chewing over hundreds of others – choose the ones who annoy you.
Go and chew next to the chosen one for the whole of your break time – Every day this can be a different person. If you run out of people that annoy you – well – just start over.
Chew hard and snarl real low, so no one will hear you, for the whole of your break – every day.
Well – I tell you – that kid – she soon got fed – up – she soon felt really restricted – So – she joined the debating club instead. There were some great subjects for her where she could really positively channel her verbalized succinct annoyance. And she had fun.
She came back to see me – and said: I LIKE YOU…. Which from a kid – who I had told a while back – YOU ARE PATHETIC…. Is true praise. She gave me praise – and I truly wanted to give her praise – I said: YOU ARE SO BRIGHT….. and she responded – YOU ARE CONFIDENT….. and it wasn’t a question. Next….. it felt like together we were weaving something marvelous and tangible – like the real fabric of life – as I ADDED LOVELY THREADS – and did MAKE CONNECTIONS….. I also said – yes and –YOU ALSO ARE NOW MORE AND MORE CONFIDENT….. which is not open to debate.
We talked about what had all that tongue tied – all that chewed up stuff been about…..and agreed – there is no need to know – it is all in the past…….
We also agreed that debate helps….. YOU BECOME FREE…. Helps YOU BECOME MORE AND MORE CERTAIN…… that it is totally wonderful to BE YOURSELF….. EXPRESS YOUR POINT OF VIEW….. and know that from any view point there are at least 360 degree angle…….
I will look forward to seeing her again – just so we know – IT IS SO GOOD TO THINK DIFFERENTLY….

Warmly
Sally

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Remember Amy – and her mother Kate?
Let’s recap:
Amy is in a new and happy relationship with Ted. They have been living contentedly and lovingly together for a few months.
Amy has a history of her father, who was a hard working man and loyal to his family, often coming home late from his job.
Amy’s Mum, Kate, was a woman who was protective of her family. Kate had been adopted when she was two and half years old. Kate had been seriously neglected as a baby by her parents who would leave their terrified baby to go out drinking.
Every time Amy’s Dad was late home from work, the young Amy witnessed and felt the furious and accusing response from Kate, her Mum, to her Dad.
Kate was being triggered into her ‘baby’ response of being terrified when she had a perception that she was being ‘abandoned’. No rational brain thinking such as: “My husband is devoted to us & he is looking after us by earring overtime……” can free Kate from her Unconscious response. Neither will such poppy cock as mind ‘control’ & mind ‘re-programming’, relaxation, EFT, CBT, ever resolve Kate’s response of terror. What will definitely cure Kate’s terror is Freeing & healing the wounded ‘child’ within her. My kind of Work!
Amy’s unconscious, when she was a small child, learnt to believe that this is the behaviour that must happen when you’re man is late home…..
Five months into Amy’s relationship living with Ted, he is late home.
Amy cannot get him on his mobile.
Amy’s conscious rational mind tries to consider that Ted is stuck in traffic, Ted has bumped into a mate and gone for a quick pint he hasn’t noticed the time, the battery is flat on Ted’s mobile….. and so on and so on…………..
But Amy’s unconscious mind has a perception, (which was learnt from her Mum’s behaviour,) her learnt belief kicks in automatically, as beliefs do, that Ted is abandoning and betraying her.
Amy, if you remember resolved this inner controlling of responses & behaviours belief, Amy chose to do my half an hour a day for 40 days Rapha* Course on CD “Have Harmonious Relationships”
All my Courses spend at least 10 days – that is 10 minutes or so for 10 days – on exploring and then deconstructing the depths of negative, destructive, self beliefs, which are pretty unique to every individual and their own life story & experiences.

Kate’s husband, John, that’s Amy’s Dad, only wanted a kiss and a smile on his return home! Kate’s ‘driving’ pain of terror of abandonment became so chronic and acute, that by the time Amy was a young teenager Kate was in a fury, even when John was home on time!
Maybe you’ve witnessed parallel behaviours in others in your life time? The more someone overeats – the more they overeat, the more sleepless someone is, the less and less they sleep, the more someone worries the more they worry, the more nervous someone is the more nervous they become, the more angry………… Why?

Simplistically, the more we use that neural net – the more that neural net is instantly activated. The Great News! (Which we did not have ‘proof’ off ‘til around 3 decades ago) The neural net is not hard wired. We can change it. To do that we need to HEAL the problematic emotions – in Kate’s experience the emotion was Terror – at being abandoned. In a baby’s case – the Terror is of death. That is a monumentally huge terror.
Kate came to Work with me, urged by Amy I must say, who’d told Kate about my 40 day Course.
Kate is pretty & blonde. To begin with her head was bent most of the time and eye contact was rare. One of the first things Kate said was: “I’m too old to change, I don’t think – you can really help.” At the time Kate was 54.
I elegantly assured her – we’re never too old.
Now, here is something that will really interest you. Kate said: “I know I have some horrible feelings deep inside me, but I do not have the memories.”
You don’t need to have the memories to heal and free a wounded, stuck, lost, part of your self. The feelings, tho’ indeed horrible ‘guide’ to the healing of the feelings.
Kate did just that in our Work together, she found and freed and healed her self.
Is Kate happy now? Is John happy now? Oh, Yes!
Oh, and thank you for the ideas for our documentary film. Brilliant! Keep ‘em coming. Professor Kathryn Rossi & Dr Ernest Rossi have happily agreed to be involved – they’re doing an interview for us. That will be Mint!
Speak soon

Warmly
Sally
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So we really do want to continue to talk together about our Unconscious mind.
We’ve already asked ourselves: why would we want to bother? And, why am I always banging on about the Unconscious mind?
Our Unconscious is worth us re-capping:
Because: Our Unconscious mind, is ‘driving’ at least 90 % of our life.
Because: Our Unconscious is our own mind – it is the ‘world’ we live in, it is our inner world from which we perceive the outer world, it is from our inner world that we respond to & react to the outer world. We need to get to know it, it’s ‘where we live’ our life.
Because: It is this part of our mind which drives our problem states. Makes sense doesn’t it? None of us consciously want our problem states, and it’s not the weather, the government, our boss or our partner, our parents who drives the problem, it is our Unconscious response. Right!
And therefore it could be considered to be understandable that that is why most every single therapeutic strategy that I come across, (and I promise you I research extensively to discover what current strategies schools of psychotherapy are advocating,) is attempting to ‘control’ & ‘re-programme’ the Unconscious.
Does it sound odd to you that: our Unconscious will want to resist being ‘controlled’ & will even resist being ‘programmed’ or ‘re-programmed’
Here’s a very, very simplistic example of a strategy, widely used in Psychotherapeutic work for re-programming the mind:
Affirmation! Try it yourself.
Think of a simple problem that you have. We’ve all got something that we’d like to improve in our Unconscious – because happiness & inner contentment with life does not have a ceiling!
So pause right now – it will only take a few minutes maximum – think of a simple problem, maybe like nervousness of public speaking, turn your problem on ‘it’s head’ & make, pretty much a polar opposite, to the problem, affirmation.
Like this example: “I have a problem in that I feel too nervous to give a public speech or presentation, my stomach churns & my throat dries up, & I’d love to be able to speak up in front of others….”
Affirmation:
“I am an acceptable person. My stomach & throat will be calm, & I will confidently speak up”
Will this affirmation for this person work, to re-programme the unconsciously driven nervousness at public speaking, when spoken or thought every day, several times a day, every 20 minutes through the day???
Not ‘in a month of Sunday’s will it ever work! (Not sure what ‘a month of Sundays is!! My Mum used to say it! And I knew what it meant! It meant never. She’d say: “Not ‘in a month of Sundays’ will I let you go into Manchester – dressed like that……”!!!)
What you will definitely notice – when you attempt to ‘re-programme’ your Unconscious – with your own personal affirmation – is inner, unconscious, resistance!
Resistance to your affirmation will manifest in your thoughts & probably in your feelings. Such as, your very next thought will be something like: “NO WAY…..” Probably followed by feelings in your body, maybe like a churning in the stomach, or a tightening of the throat, a stabbing in the heart, a heavy weight in the head….. and so and so on……..
Now, here’s the thing, Tah Dah, the resistance is absolutely the ‘key’ to unravelling deeply held negative beliefs. Honour the resistance & then differentiate out what got ‘ravelled’ into the negative self beliefs – & finally we are able to bring about lasting resolution
So, let’s, in light of my statement: “…..our Unconscious will want to resist being ‘controlled’ & will even resist being ‘programmed’ or ‘re-programmed’” – explore what happened to young Amy.
Amy ‘learnt’ her belief from her Mum’s behaviour that, basically, if you’re man is more than 3 minutes late home you’re being abandoned. Abandonment causes fear in a young unconscious mind.
Ted, Amy’s beloved partner, whenever he was late home from work, or from any outing, triggered the fear response which Amy had learnt as a child. No affirmation or logic will stop Amy’s fear.
The mild mannered, gentle Ted finally became so frustrated with Amy’s fury with him and next her withdrawal, that Amy’s “Sorry….” just did not ‘cut it’ any more. Ted upped & left. How sad is that. So sad.
Amy, I am delighted to say contacted me. We had a good 45 minutes on the phone. Next Amy choose to do my half an hour a day for 40 days Rapha* Course on CD “Have Harmonious Relationships”
All my Course spend at least 10 days – that is 10 minutes or so a day – on exploring the depths of negative self beliefs, which are pretty unique to every individual & their own life story & experiences. During those 10 days we also differentiate each negative belief ‘strand’ from the tangle of the negative belief system. And then we bring about lasting resolution – & then bring in a whole new appropriate & life affirming belief system. Good Hey……….
Amy phoned me a few weeks after she’d completed my course – she & Ted are back together & very happy.

Hurrah!
Oh & thanks everyone for your great thoughts & creative comments on the documentary we are making this summer “Why we are not free to be free … to be our self”
Keep your comments coming, ‘tis much appreciated. Thank you.
Warmly
Sally
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*R.A.P.H.A. Together we at Sally Stubbs have spent a number of years developing R.A.P.H.A., cutting edge, clean strategies which give back inner control to each individual, which is where control rightfully belongs. The control of having the choice of how to think and feel & respond to all and any situation.

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Hello

A friend, who is a lovely woman &  a caring intelligent mother (but her dog is thoroughly daft!) said to me: “Therapists always want to blame your childhood for mind-emotional problems!”

I really don’t know if this true or not, I mean, that Therapists ‘blame’ childhood experiences?

But I absolutely do know this certainly is not true of me and my work, whether that is 1:1 or through my audio work: And there is never ever any ‘blame’.

Blaming does not free & heal us.

I never, ever make suppositions, give advice, or give diagnosis, nor is my Work prescriptive, which may seem really weird to you.

Simplistically what I am doing is providing the unconscious mind a space to communicate its language, and for the unconscious to discover and resolve the problem state. Why? Because, as we’ve mentioned before, our problem state is unconsciously driven, and the paradox is our unconscious has the resolution to heal & free us from ‘where’ we got ‘stuck’ in time.

We unconsciously ‘freeze’ time in painful experiences in an attempt to stop this experience, in the next moments from probably or possibly getting worse, and therefore not emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, or physically safe for our self.

I’m maybe going to sound really weird to you now!: Mostly I’m communicating with “IT” so that “IT” can discover the exact right unique solutions for “IT”, “IT” being the problem. So, I’ll make sense of this now and you’ll say: Wow Sally’s not in the least bit weird! Simplistically “IT” is the part of our self which got ‘stuck’

So: Think of an emotional problem right now, and ask yourself:

How do I know that I have this emotional problem?

Maybe to begin with you’ll want to say all kinds about your life, like, I have this problem because of my boss, my relationship, my parent, my finances……. the weather…….. Then soon you’ll get to the problem inside of you, not these external triggers in your life, and your answer will be:

“IT” feels like this: “……in my head, chest, stomach, throat…… “IT’s” like knotting, churning, trembling, numb, stuck, heavy, fluttering…… “

There are literally a myriad of unique to you descriptions of “IT” So what happens next is that in therapy with me “IT” communicates it’s own information and goes on a journey to discover resolution for “IT” In my 1:1 & on my CD/MP3 audio courses – together, you & I safely allow “IT” to communicate & journey to “IT’s” resolutions healing & freeing

Then, halleluiah,  when “IT” has final resolution & freedom you’ll feel your boss’ ‘tantrums’ are like ‘water off a ducks back’ You’ll have resources to sort your relationship and finances – and Hey in bad weather you’ll feel well clothed and ‘weather proof’

Maybe Jonny’s video clip on You Tube will go some way to getting you a real sense of “IT” as “IT” for Jonny was a serious cancer. Jonny makes me cry happily every time I watch the clip – he’s just lovely. Jonny named his cancer ‘The Guys’. This was Jonny’s unconscious solution – not mine!! Enjoy Jonny’s smiling face, and knowing that seven years on he is well, successful and lovingly married. ENJOY Jonny.

Thinking of you warmly

Sally

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P.S. Any ideas you may have for our film:”Why we are not Free to be free to be our self. And, HOW we can be!” will be so gratefully received.  Thank you.

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Thanks for listening
Thinking of You Warmly

Sally
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Stormy Weather?

I recently read this Quote on Twitter: “Everyone can navigate in fine weather”.
It makes you think doesn’t it!
I replied to this Tweet.” I bet you’re not surprised!!!”
Writing what I wanted to say with a maximum of 140 characters was a heck of a challenge!
I replied: “The problem with the weather is that we get stuck with our inner ‘storms’ in our unconscious mind”.
This Tweet “Everyone can navigate in fine weather” was a great opportunity for me, as I continuously use the metaphor of ‘the weather’ in my Work.
And the problems that I see everywhere, from social media to the press, are that there are so many similar statements to this mild Tweet. Everywhere, so manypeople totally neglect to consider, discuss and enquire into the driving force in all our lives: The unconscious mind…..
Our unconscious mind is so often driving inner ‘stormy weather’ that navigating our lives can be difficult, or can sometimes feel downright dangerous.
How it works, how it ‘drives’ our inner pain and turmoil, how our unconscious paradoxically has the solutions, resolutions and resources to cure our suffering once and for all.
I talk with you about how to communicate with our unconscious.
How cure of our problem states is not a ten minute ‘fast food’ therapy.(FFT) Nor is it years and years of learning control and management and learning why we have these sufferings.
Forty days of effort, the right kind of effort, the exact right kind of communication with our unconscious, once a day for around half an hour for forty days, for most of our problems will bring about an enduring cure using my Rapha Hypnosis techniques.
As I’m writing this, I am reminded of a friend who I met in the late 1980’s
He had his dream career, his dream home in London,cars, money, travel, really good friends, and a hugely glamorous social life.
And yet he was very, very lonely; he longed for a close lasting relationship with a woman.
But relationships never worked for him.
When I met him he had been in therapy pretty much once a week for fifteen years! (I Groan with exasperation…)
He told me that the therapy had enabled him to know why he had depression and uncontrollable outbursts of anger (that seemed to come from that place called nowhere…) since he’d been a teenager.
But: He still had depression and uncontrollable outbursts of anger.
That is a huge BUT isn’t it! Poor bloke, I hear these all too often, makes me feel utterly sad.
I suggested he change his therapist, not easy after nearly fifteen years, and go and Work with a colleague of mine in London, Julie, we studied together with the great David Grove in Missouri.
My friend did go to do some Work with Julie. Three months later he was cured. A month after that he met Nancy.
He and Nancy have been happily married for over 20 years.
I cannot count the number of folks who over the past 30 years have said to me: “This is ridiculous that I have a problem….. the sleeplessness, anxiety, fears, nervousness, stress…… edgy relationships…. Feeling angry….. can’t stop eating….. inner turmoil…no self esteem……. When my life is fine.
I have a lovely home, my job is OK, I’m pretty successful….. my dog is gorgeous…….”
In other words:
The outer weather is fine. Sunny from time to time. The odd showers and winds. It could be better ‘weather’, but I can’t really complain!
The inner weather: Blows up turmoil and becomes stormy….. “When I’m around my boss, around food……. Have to present at a meeting……… so many things make me want to ‘run away and hide myself’”
The ‘outer’ triggers that stir up the inner ‘storms’
My metaphor ‘stands up’ when we now consider, bringing calm and CURE to the inner ‘storms’.
We can Work with our unconscious in a correct, right, safe, comfortable way, time moves on and ‘the storms’ are over.
We safely enable the inner ‘storms’ to complete them selves… to no longer be ‘stuck’ in time as a continuous whirling around in circles turmoil….. to no longer experience disturbance and distress in our inner emotional and psychological ‘land scapes’
So, do come visit me and find out more www.sally-stubbs.com or vist youtube.com just type in Sally Stubbs and examples of my work will appear.

Please do not hesitate to contact me: I would love to hear from you.

Thinking of you warmly…..
Sally

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Happy Spring Time To You!
Like I’ve said before, I’m not being naive about us being happy, it’s a word I use to describe a state of being free from ‘chronic’ emotional and psychological suffering.
By ‘chronic’ I mean the ‘negative’ & ‘painful’ experiences & beliefs that ‘play on & on & on….’ in our minds – basically going nowhere towards resolution & healing
Apart from the horror of suffering the pain of grief or loss, and grief for others loss we can be happy in life, happy in our own ‘skin’!
No one, absolutely no one, in my 32 years of full time practice, has ever come to me and said; “I want you to help cure me because: I’m too happy!” No one! That’s a lot of folk in over a quarter of a century who’ve worked with me 1:1 or travelled with me on my audio courses, has ever said that!
So, I’ll say it again, because I can, I genuinely wish you a Happy Spring Time!
This is what I do, this is my passion, I serve people who Work with me, & journey alongside me on my audio courses, I assist them to ‘bake scrumptious, nourishing or just for fun cakes’, so that in life, not just for Spring time, we can: Have Our Cake and Eat it!
I do! And I didn’t used to! In my earlier life even if I saw ‘a cake’ right in front of me I’d unconsciously think, “Oh no! that ‘cakes’  not for me!”
I’d unconsciously think “That can’t be for me, I don’t deserve it!” Or: “It can’t possibly be that good ‘a cake’, life isn’t like that, life is disappointment!” Or I’d feel too scared or frightened, ashamed, gulity or embarrassed to even have a taste of good ‘cake’!
But, you’ll understand, that’s what I do, I communicate elegantly with the unconscious mind of others. So in my first year or two of working, I knew I had to ‘be in touch’ with my own unconscious and ‘heal my cracks’! And now, I ‘eat cake’!
I can personally tell you that Eating Cake does not turn you or /me into in some supercilious ‘fat cat’ who rail roads it over other fellow human beings. ‘Eating Good, Scrumptious, Nourishing, Fun Cake’ makes you want to share yours with everyone else.
I know I’ve used this metaphor of ‘Having Cake & Eating It’ before, however, it truly is a Great metaphor worthy of our deep consideration. Eating the Cake – is about nourishing our Self – our emotions our psyche – the ‘spirit’ of who we truly are.. Freeing our self from negative self beliefs & inner pain.
‘Cakes’ may seem for you or someone you really care about to be a million miles away, on another planet or always just out of reach. Honestly no matter how you suffer or a loved one of yours suffers, ‘cakes’ are accessible to us all. And to those who cannot access them, about which I am really sad, once we have our own ‘cake’ it’s only then that we can share with others, and about that I’m really glad. Basically & to be really blunt when we are starved of inner Happiness (whatever that means to us as individuals) we cannot ‘nourish’ others.
How can we begin to have ‘our cake and eat it’ and share it with others? Here’s a simple strategy for you:
Tip Top Tip:
• Validate your self. Stop ‘beating your self up’! When we ‘beat our selves up’ we believe we don’t deserve ‘cake’.
• How do you do this? Observe your invalidating of yourself inner dialogue, the: “I’m useless, I’m lazy, I let so & so down…. I’ve failed…….And so on and so on….”
• Observe & then write that stinky stuff down in a notebook and then with loads of energy delete that kind of dialogue.
• Take each one at a time – spend a couple of days on each one – Shout out loud – not the opposite – but a step towards the opposite. As my example: Take the “I am useless” step it over towards the positive by shouting out loud “I am really useful at …. “ Fill it in… with a statement you will believe such as this example: “I’m really useful at always being on time!”
• Invalidating your self does not make you a better person! It has no value in your life or the lives of others!
I’m really glad you’ve been listening to me – many thanks for that
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Thanks for listening
Thinking of You WarmlySally
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1. Choose to Change

2. Consider a Formula for Change:-    Every hour and a half throughout your day, pause for a few seconds and say, “I can change my thoughts and beliefs which do not celebrate my life”. The brain is in rest phase and the mind is ready to learn something new.

3.  Identify Your Desired State:-     Take time and write down your goal, your desired state. Focus throughout the day and plan your most important journey of your life – to happiness.

4.  Keep A Notebook:-    Carry your notebook and make lists – be ready to write down anything that will make you happier.

5.  Remind Yourself Why You Need Change:-    Get fully motivated towards reaching your destination. Imagine yourself with a serene or smiley face: hear your voice, strong, certain or calmn and notice the change.

6.  Keep Your Saboteurs In Check:-    Say your Mum had been a constant worrier – consistantly scared for your safety and wellbeing. Chronic worrying is a waste of time and life. You can say to yourself “I am going to have clear thoughts with loads of energy for my brain to respond with new and happier thought patterns.”

7.  Reflect:-    Take time to reflect on your percetions and response and discover you have the choice to change your peceptions and therefore your responses. Your mind and brain can now begin to have safe responses rather than her habituated fear responses.

8.  Pay Attention To Your Thoughts:-    Interrupt your patterns of ‘down’ thinking. So do something fast, really different like splashing your face with cold water and you will train yourself to interrupt your negative thought patterns.

9.  Find Your Space:-    Choose a time every day  say 15 – 20 minutes for time and space just for you. Choose to think things that make you feel good. You will soon discover that it is entirely up to you. You will then see how you will begin to feel ‘up’ and happier for longer and longer periods of time.

10.  Smile Every Day:-    Smiling instantly lifts your mood: If Life Gives You Lemons – How 10 Seconds a Day Will Bring You Happiness.

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Sally

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budding crocus!

Hello : a beautiful gorgoeus sunny day here in the Lakes:
Life is abounding with Great Opportunities for us all. Which, as we’ve discussed, is really hard if not at times impossible for our mind to even contemplate ‘seeing and hearing’, let alone acting upon, when we are ‘suffering’ a mind – emotional problem.
A client said something really awesome to me; it stopped me in my stride! Which, actually clients always do stop me in ‘my stride’ every day – because I learn so much that is new and valuable from them.
What do I learn?
Well, I learn about Consciousness. I learn about: ‘To boldly go where no man has been before’ (quote from Star Trek – for those non Trekky’’s amongst us!)
I am ‘bold’ enough to reframe this quote, with all respect to Gene Rodenberry who developed Star Trek in 1964, that we are to boldly ‘go’ and explore ‘inner space’, explore the as yet unexplored boundless, freeing Consciousness.
I absolutely know that as we explore & expand our Consciousness we Free ourselves from mind & emotional problems & suffering which ‘stagnate’ us & ‘control’ us.
We Free our self into peace, inner stability, inner resourcefulness, inner & outer harmony & well being.
Anyway, I was talking with you about my client who was working on a problem he had (of course he was – no one comes to me to Work because they are full on happy!)
His problem was about the painful hurt he was suffering in a close and important relationship.
I asked him: “What do you want to achieve?”
He replied; “I want to have meekness.”
I never ever make suppositions about any of my Work either in my recorded CD/Mp3 courses, or my 1:1 Work. But I was struck surprised by his word ‘meekness’. I asked him what he meant by meekness? He said that: “Meekness is the ability to see clearly and to not mind….. “
Brilliant!
In other words – to be in a place and space in our mind to no longer be responding from ‘pain’ and hurt, and therefore to not respond inappropriately by either ‘withdrawing into a bleak hiding mood’ or getting into a ‘fury’ – or turning to food – feeling frightened, nervous – stressing, tossing and turning all night……….that endless circle of not knowing whether to blame them (or blame something, the weather, the government, the price of fuel…..) or take the blame our self.
Considering ‘meekness’ as a response is not me or my client being naïve! It is about seeing clearly – not minding – and having time to respond appropriately. By appropriately that means from a ‘clean’ clear place that is in the present free of hurt or ‘pain’ from our past.
So, I think his take on ‘meekness’ is truly awesome.

How can we begin to do this? And meekness may of course not be your preferred response. How can we respond to the ‘stinky’ stuff from a ‘clean’ resourceful place.

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Here’s a Tip Top Tip from me – for you to work with:
Pause for a few moments, even though you’re hurting, and ask: “Does this hurt of mine belong to this moment or some earlier life experience?”
You’ll know if it belongs to a younger life experience because you’ll have had the feelings & thoughts before, the feelings & thoughts won’t be brand new, there will be a familiar ‘knotting’ of ‘pain’ in your stomach, chest, heart, throat….A churning…. an emptiness…… a pounding….. a tightening…….. a pressure…… a heaviness……. a numbing & a withdrawing………..
Once you realise this is familiar ‘pain’ the strategy is to acknowledge it by saying convincingly to yourself:
“That’s Right! That really did hurt me …when I was aged about…….(You’ll know about how old you were…) So, in ‘honouring’ your past ‘pain’ you help your self not to hide and withdraw into a mood or get angry with them, or angry with whatever is going on for you in the present – and you also help to ease, and even begin to resolve, a past ‘pain’ with which you got ‘stuck’
And – what you will be doing with my Tip top Tip – is: ‘To boldly go where no man has been before’ – You will journey boldly & also totally safely – you will I promise, gain some Amazing results for your self.
How do I know that my Tip Top Tip is safe for you to ‘Enterprisingly’ journey in your Consciousness? I know because for over 30 years I’ve studied, diligently the Clean Language of the Unconsciousness mind. And the question: “Does this hurt of mine belong to this moment or some earlier life experience?” is exactly that: Clean. It does not give (import), advice, suppositions, suggestion or analysis.
ENJOY your boldness & ENJOY your amazing results

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My Story “It’s A Breeze Let the New Blow In” will absolutely help you to ‘boldly go’ Have a listen on You Tube.

Thanks for listening
Thinking of You Warmly

Sally

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