Our latest red squirrel news is that our lovely & ‘wickedly naughty’ daughter Emma has named one of them Mohican! Yeah, because the wide and high fluff of its tail perched on top of its head, is black!
Mike will get some videos for you to see the red squirrels soon – it would be brilliant if Mohican pitches up for the camera!
I watched a few minutes of a video on ‘Ted Talks’ yesterday of Tony Robbins.
Do you know him? (Robbins that is)
He started out in his career of becoming a ‘coach’ by taking a course on NLP and he has ‘flown’ with these strategies in his world of ‘coaching’.
I admire that Robbins has changed his M.O. since I last saw him on video about 6 years ago.
And I enjoy him, in that he is a riveting, charismatic presenter, and he’s kind of good looking if you like that ‘big’ all round smiley American look!
One of Robbins ideas really resonated with me, when I saw him 6 years or so ago.
He stated that:
If you do a good job – you get bad results!
If you do a great job – you get good results!
If you do an outstanding job – you get great results!
Let’s think for a moment, or for several moments! about the amazing Olympic athletes – from both the Olympic Games and the Paralympics Games. Did they do a good job? No they did an outstanding job.
Being successful as all the Olympians were truly successful even to be competing in the Games in the first place – was and is, massively emotionally and psychologically driven. Their success has to be how they individually think and feel and believe in the first place for any of them to ever get up off their bums and get going.
What you and I discuss and explore together is all about resolving – successfully and finally – psychological and emotional problems.
We need our goal to get us up off our bums and achieve successfully and finally our own resolution, just as the athletes had a goal to compete in the Games and to win a medal. The athletes will have kept their goal continuously, day by day, hour by hour, and through their gruelling hours of training fully in their sight.
I have talked a few times already about our motivation to be successful. And that two of the things which drive our motivation to really succeed are our reasons and our purposes.
Encarta Dictionary: reason – an explanation or justification for something.
Encarta Dictionary: purpose – the desire and the resolve necessary to accomplish a goal.
I’ve added dictionary definitions of reason and purpose, to help you focus on the terms.
You have a problem, we all have a problem. The problem can become like the untidy, messy cupboard!
Whatever the problem you have, (the one which you are thinking of right now) – let’s say the problem is for example: feeling nervous in certain situations, being fearful in some situations, lack of sleeping well, stressed, disturbed in a relationship – whatever your problem part of the lack of motivation to ‘get up off your bum’ is you’ve learnt to live with it!
Like the untidy cupboard, which we cannot really shut the door on, but we adjust to, learn to live with it, and yet it claims our attention maybe daily, calling out: Tidy Me!
As Laura, (name changed) who lost her hair with what was diagnosed as Androgenetic Alopecia, (an incurable disease she was told) and has now grown her own hair and grown her own way through her Work with me said:
“….You see, I had learnt to live with a wounded soul and I was so afraid to have any expectation for myself to heal – in case I could never be healed.
I once heard someone say something like: ‘If you’ve got to know the devil, it’s better than a god you may never know…’ These words kind of made sense as I’d made the ‘devil’, or maybe more accurately what ‘bedevilled’ me work for me, or so I believed!”
So maybe you will enjoy my Golden Bullets on reasons and purposes:
• Separate out your reasons to resolve your problem from your purposes to resolve your problem
• Your reasons will be explainable e.g. A reason for me to sleep well is that it’s healthier.
• Your purposes will be your desires e.g. A purpose for me to sleep well is I want energy to run with the winds and jump around for joy…..
• Keep working on your two equally important lists of reasons and purposes for you to resolve your problem. This will help to grow your motivation to Olympic athlete size!
• And all the time keep your eye firmly on your goal! Just like an Olympian…
Thinking of you warmly
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