Let’s get ‘into it’ today and really talk together about our Unconscious Mind.
Why would we want to bother? Why am I always banging on about the Unconscious Mind? Because, our Unconscious Mind, is ‘driving’ at least 90 % of our life.
Our Unconscious is our own mind – it is the ‘world’ we live in, it is our inner world from which we perceive the outer world, it is from our inner world that we respond to and react to the outer world. We need to get to know it, it’s ‘where we live’ our life.
It is this part of our mind which drives our problem states. Makes sense doesn’t it? None of us consciously want our problem states, and, it’s not the weather, the government, our boss or our partner who drives the problem, it is our Unconscious response. Right!
Therefore, it could be considered to be understandable that is why most every single therapeutic strategy that I come across (and I promise you I research extensively to discover what current strategies, schools of psychotherapy are advocating) is attempting to ‘control’ & ‘re-programme’ the Unconscious.
Here is a simple example: by way of explanation: of an inappropriate Unconscious response of Amy’s and how these kind of responses work in our life ‘automatically’ without us being able to rarely, if ever, consciously resist.
If you take this following simple example you will be able to apply it to many ‘problem’ states in which we experience an overriding automatic response, such as our stress response, our response to a trigger to a phobic state, our automatic response to food, our response which disables us from good sleep, our response of feeling nervous when we are asked to give a speech, and so on ……
Amy is in a new and happy relationship with Ted. They have been living contentedly and lovingly together for a few months.
Amy has a history of her father, who was a hard working man and loyal to his family, often coming home late from his job.
Amy’s Mum Kate was a woman who was protective of her family. Kate had been adopted when she was two and half years old. Kate had been seriously neglected as a baby by her parents who would leave their terrified baby to go out drinking.
Every time Amy’s Dad was late home from work, the young Amy witnessed and felt the furious and accusing response from Kate, her Mum, to her Dad.
Kate was being triggered into her ‘baby’ response of being terrified when she had a perception that she was being abandoned. No rational brain thinking such as: “My husband is devoted to us & he is looking after us by earning overtime……” can free Kate from her Unconscious response. Neither will such poppy cock as mind ‘control’ & mind ‘re-programming’ ever resolve Kate’s response of terror. What will definitely cure Kate’s terror is Freeing & Healing the wounded child within her. My kind of Work!
Amy’s unconscious, when she was a small child, learnt to believe that this is the behaviour that must happen when you’re man is late home…..
Five months into Amy’s relationship living with Ted, he is late home.
Amy cannot get him on his mobile.
Amy’s conscious rational mind tries to consider that Ted is stuck in traffic, Ted has bumped into a mate and gone for a quick pint, he hasn’t noticed the time, the battery is flat on Ted’s mobile…..
But Amy’s unconscious mind has a perception (which was learnt from her Mum’s behaviour) so her learnt belief kicks in automatically, as beliefs do, that Ted is abandoning and betraying her.
Ted walks in 53 minutes later than his usual time to return home to first of all Amy’s fury lashing out at him, pots & pans hurling past his head, and then Amy’s withdrawal into to some dark, moody, unreachable, ‘leave me alone’ state. Amy replicate’s Kate’s responses & behaviours perfectly.
Ted was late because he’d stopped off to get Amy a surprise gift…………..
Amy’s apology takes effort of reconciliation.
And the next time Ted is late home from work, stuck in traffic, a meeting running late…….the same ‘damn thing’ happens again – and again………..Amy’s response of fury & then withdrawal into ‘hiding’.
Amy needs the right strategies to communicate with her own unconscious self – to be able to unravel – and bring understanding into this now automatic response to her perception that she is – like her Mum’s belief – always going to be abandoned and betrayed.
No matter how much Ted assures Amy that he loves her, that he is loyal, he is monogamous, Amy’s unconscious won’t ‘get it’, not in a hundred years, until she learns how to communicate correctly with her own unconscious.
Kate’s inner Work with her unconscious will take more effort to free & heal her from her baby terror, & next her ‘baby’ need to withdraw. Simplistically terror & withdrawal for ‘baby’ Kate was an attempt to protect her. Simply speaking as long as ‘baby’ Kate is in a terror or even a withdrawn response – at least she is still alive.
Maybe you can begin to differentiate for your self, is your problem state actually coming from a wounded place within your younger self, or from a learnt belief?
You are so welcome to email me any questions or thoughts you have. I am here to help. It’s what I want to do, help you live your life being free to be your self.
We’ve loads more to talk about our amazing Unconscious mind.
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