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Archive for September, 2014

Who Do You Think You Are?

Monday, September 29th, 2014
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

What a Question Hey?
WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
Let’s think about: YOU.
Pretty much Every word we use – to explain or describe, has an “imprint”, has made its “mark”, in our consciousness, which we can trace to its origin – and how we experienced any particular word – in any particular “imprinting” moments of our life, which produced an emotion to that word.
Words contain ‘worlds within’, and depending on the experience of when certain words were first learnt – the feelings we have will correspond.
LET’S EXPLORE: ‘YOU’……
None of us had a ‘You’ – when we were pre verbal – not until we learnt the language.
From well meaning others who had the skill of language we may well have learnt : “You – are so clever. You – are so beautiful. You – are a joy to be with. You- will have a Great life…………..” ‘You’ – grows with positive associations
OR: From others who verbally delivered: “I’m scolding You for your own good. I’m punishing You to make You good…….” ‘You’ grows – with bewilderment, confusion & uncertainty.
ITS ALL A PART OF YOUR JOURNEY TO WHO ‘YOU’ ARE
Here’s a clear Story to indicate our use of words, an important Story for us all:
Twenty years or so ago I was Working 1:1 with a Client, it was towards the end of the Session – when the ‘younger fragment’ of my Client said she was sitting on some bright velvet cushions. I began to stress she Enjoy the comfort of ‘bright velvet cushions’ – this was my totally inaccurate presumption.
The ‘bright velvet cushions’, was the environment where she had experienced a serious beating, perpetrated upon her when she was a child.
That was a defining lesson for me of the ‘hidden’ worlds within worlds of words.
Imagine my dismay when last year I heard a well experienced Therapist conducting a strategy called Guided Imagery, say to the Client: “There are velvet cushions and I want you to sink deeply relaxed into that safe comfort….”
These examples demonstrates clearly – how careful we sometimes need to be with our presumptions of what feelings another has ‘imprinted’ by words.
Even the word ‘Love’ we could presume for all of us will be ‘imprinted’ with good experience & emotion. What if the word ‘Love’ is associated with a painful experience? ‘I’m beating you because I love you……..’ then the ‘world’ of ‘Love’ can be most confusing.
Hence my deeply considered care of words on my RAPHA courses.
SO HOW ABOUT………
So how about I ask you – now or; later – you choose when – that you sit right down in your chair – and ask someone who you trust to ask you the Question: Who do You think You are?
Your ‘You’ will tell his or her Story – in a way that is safe and valuable to you on your journey – to Free & heal your ‘self’.
Email me your thoughts or questions privately I’ll be delighted to hear from you.
Journey well to Free your ‘self’………
Warmly
Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy ‘Cures that Endure’

sally@sally-stubbs.com

Where Do You Find Your ‘Self’?

Monday, September 22nd, 2014
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

 I understand that I learnt to care for and about others from my Dad……. And Yeah – my Dad is my Hero.
I do have a number of heroes – and they’re all, in my view, outstanding Revolutionary Reformists – to name a few: Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, William Wilberforce – and My Dad!
SO – WHERE DO YOU FIND YOUR ‘SELF’?
Makes sense doesn’t it – that we first need to find our self – particularly the ‘lost’ fragment of our self – before we can Free our self of debilitating Symptoms?
Why?
Perhaps if you’ve read some of my recent letters you’ll accept that our Debilitating Symptoms – the nervousness, the fears – the hiding away – the not saying NO! to food or others who ‘door mat’ us – the getting angry with the cat or the pots & pans – the stressing the worry – the tossing & turning at night – the feelings of failure – the not speaking up……….. all – these horrid Symptoms ‘belong’ to a lost ‘fragment’ of our self.
So – where do we go to find and then Free our ‘self’?
We don’t have to move – we just need to sit right on down in our chair – because our ‘lost’ self is inside – us.
Your Unconscious mind might well travel ‘out to the stars’ to discover just where your ‘lost’ self – took up residence – when the ‘going got really tough’ – and you don’t even have to move out of your chair!

MY ‘SELF’ & THE TREE
I sat right down in my chair – this was back in 1985 – and my unconscious mind went in search of my ‘lost’ self – I found ‘her’ sitting up at the top of a favourite tree at the bottom of the garden – aged about 8.
When ‘the going had got tough’ for ‘her’ – emotionally ‘she’ took off to the tree.
I think I make sense to you? Think of it this way if you need to – lots of kids will ‘go out the window’ when the environment is boring. Right?
Their mind/self will ‘go off’ on all kinds of adventures. Grown ups are often heard to scold:
‘Pay attention when I’m talking.’
Or:
‘You’re not listening to me.’
(Grown ups used to say around me: ‘Oh, you’ll not get a word from Sally – she lives on another planet’)
Anyway once the boring stuff is over – and not before time for the kid! – their mind/self will come back.
When the stuff going on in the environment is frightening or scary – the mind/self – is not interested in ‘coming back’ – it can ‘stay out’ for a lifetime.
Sometimes the fragment of self in a frightening, scary or bewildering experience does not ‘go out’ – the fragment of self ‘takes up residence’ inside.
You’ll know this by such experiences as a knotting in the stomach – a shaking in the legs – a trembling in the heart – a closing up in the throat – a blanking in the head – a sinking in the tummy – a heaviness in the chest…….
All of these kinds of feelings denote where a ‘lost fragment of self resides’
And it is these feelings that ‘drive’ the nervousness, the fears – the hiding away – the not saying NO! to food or others who ‘door mat’ us – the getting angry with the cat or the pots & pans – the stressing the worry – the tossing & turning at night – the feelings of failure – the not speaking up………..
The ‘lost fragment of self’ that has these feelings is ‘saying’: Don’t get rid of ‘me’ – find ‘me’ and free ‘me’

SIT RIGHT DOWN IN YOUR CHAIR – & – FIND YOUR’ SELF’
And if you need help on your journey as you sit right down in your chair – I’m here for you with one of my RAPHA COURSES.
I have had a minor Rant over the years! I Love the writing of Dan Millman, James Redfield, Paulo Coelho – brilliant authors. My minor Rant is that so many books like these are indicating to the reader that you need to literally travel – to Hawaii – South America – the desert – to find your self.  Not so!
Journey Well………….

 

Warmly
Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy ‘Cures that Endure’

sally@sally-stubbs.com

FREE YOUR INNER POWER

Tuesday, September 9th, 2014

inner powerFREEING THE POWER WITHIN…….
Look – I’m not messing around here – when I tell you the Truth – Yep – the Truth – the Magic simple formula – is – the Power within you is contained – held safe actually – in the Symptoms.

This Magic – that I know of — is becoming more & more sought after.
THE SYMPTOMS ARE:
Symptoms, such as the nervousness, the tossing & turning through the night, the stressing & worrying, angry at the cat, the I’m hiding away, I feel trapped, I feel lost, too scared to be confident, I can’t say “NO!”……………….. & so on – are like this –

Just imagine this: A fragment of your self fell into a deep, maybe even a deep, deep hole in the ground. Then the rest of your self had to get on with life – of course you did – and ever since you’ve been doing your very, very best – I know you have – whilst a missing fragment of your self is still stuck in a deep, deep hole in the ground.

Well – all these kinds of symptoms: the nervousness, the tossing & turning thru’ the night, the stressing & worrying, angry with the cat, the I’m hiding away, I feel trapped, I feel lost, too scared to be confident, I can’t say “NO!”……………….. are your lost, & fallen into a deep, deep hole, fragment of your self’s way of Yelling – communicating:

“Get Me Out of Here; Find Me; Free Me.”

THIS IS THE MAGIC THAT I DO
I don’t – in my Work and my RAPHA Audio Courses: half an hour a day for 40 days – get rid of Symptoms. This kind of prevalent Therapy Work is attempting to Get Rid of the ‘lost fragment of your self’.
This kind of Work does not achieve Authentic success. This kind of therapy – the direct suggestions – the affirmations – the meditations – the relaxations – the positive thinking – & so on – make my Heart ache & also puts me in a fury.
The lost fragment of our self – will NOT respond to this stuff.
Why?
Because this fragment is not thinking positive is not relaxed and is not interested in direct suggestion, visualisations, deep breathing. ‘It’ can’t comprehend any of those strategies. ‘It’’ is lost & stuck in a deep dark hole in the ground. ‘It’ is lost in a hard, dark place. ‘It’ is asking to be Found Freed & Healed – by ‘it’s’ unerring repetition of symptoms.
WHY BOTHER TO FREE THE FRAGMENT OF SELF
Someone asked me this Great question not long ago. She asked why should she bother to do one of my RAPHA Courses – to Gain Self Esteem & Self Confidence. She said: “I’ve managed to get by for nearly 54 years” (She is 54!)
I do so appreciate and respect the effort that we take in life to keep going – to get by as this lady said.
The Reason & Purpose to bother – Finding Freeing & Healing the lost – in a deep hole – fragment of our self – is that this fragment of our self has within ‘It’ – our lost Power.
The kind of Power that is always for our own good will, ease & celebration of our life & the good will of others.
MY WISH FOR YOU IS YOU FREE YOUR POWER WITHIN………………..
Warmly
Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy –  ‘Cures that Endure’

sally @sally-stubbs.com