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Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

Make 2019 The Year For You!

Monday, November 12th, 2018

free mojoWould you like to be happier in 2019?
Wikipedia quotes: “Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”
Could our Happiness possibly be about choice? Of course, because it really is up to us to be happy:)

I believe we do have the choice. I promise you from my ‘Heart’ – although being outstandingly happy 24/7 would be ludicrous – because we do have the challenges, the uncertainties and absolutely we do have the sadness. Yet: we can learn to give straight, focused time to the challenges and the uncertainties and we can accept that it is healthy for our ‘Heart’ to feel sadness.
If we can consider briefly for a few moments – when we were babies and when we were young children – as long as we were well, warm, fed – physically comfortable And we were experiencing emotional stability, we were in a state of mental & emotional contentment – which, when we saw, heard, smelt, tasted, touched on something exciting, beautiful, intriguing, contentment could range to joy.

When we were ‘at one with our world’ and ‘our world was at one with us’ we were content…………..
Today we were going to explore – the ‘how’ to solve, resolve and ‘heal’ our ‘inner’ objections to our Happiness.

I think we need a couple more things in place before we take this step.
I’ll talk about these couple of ‘steps’ in a moment, because resolving our ‘objections’ to Happiness does take effort.

Enjoyable effort actually, because the effort has immeasurable rewards for our life – the reward being that life can be experienced as a stable inner sense of contentment – no matter the challenges and bewilderments in life.

Just to recap:
When you are answering the questions: And when I am happy – how do I know that I am happy? – and you then choose to answer the question through your own knowing – of some past experience – your thoughts and your feelings You then also ‘note’ the inner objections, such as: ‘Yeah but I’m so worrying about…’ ‘Yeah but I’m really stressing about….’  ‘Yeah but – I can’t say “No”…’ ‘Yeah but I can’t sleep…….’
Our inner objections to our Happiness are valid.

Each objection needs our careful attention – to solve resolve, and heal correctly – and permanently.
So before we explore the ‘how’ to do this – let’s spend another week – for a few minutes a day ‘firming up’ our inner ability and resourcefulness to access our thoughts and feelings of Happiness.

Ideally we would do this – access inner happiness for twenty minutes every hour & a half!

If you are the type of person who likes facts go look up my teacher Dr Ernest Rossi on google – Ultradian Rhythms. Natural rhythms in our amazing brain – every hour & a half throughout the 24 hours our brain wants and needs to rest, totally in a state of contentment for 20 minutes. None of us will take this amount of time in our – oh so busy schedules – to rest & feel content within our self – leaving the world to ‘grind on’ with its problems! You can choose to do the 20 minutes Ultradian rest once a day?

Here’s a link for you to my course which need to use for only half an hour a day to make your life happier.
Enjoy:) Enhance Your Happiness

And the other ‘step’ for you this week:

Explore your own beliefs – you can choose to feel happy – it is a choice!

The only times happiness is not a choice are:
1) When our inner objections are not resolved with the right attention.
2) When we are literally in physical danger, when we have to ‘run like mad, or fight’.
3) When we are genuinely grieving the loss of a loved one

Wishing you enjoyment on your ‘steps’ towards your Happiness.
warmly

Sally

sally@sally-stubbs.

www.sally-stubbs.com

Finding Your ‘Mojo’

Monday, March 14th, 2016
Sally

Sally

When we have our MoJo’ with us we can feel we have a connection with an innate kind of ‘magic’ within us.

Children have it! Just watch them play:)

As long as we, as children are fed, comfortable, safe and emotionally secure we are ‘magical’ and creative – we explore the immeasurable potential of our consciousness.

We have a healthy flow between our conscious and unconscious ‘worlds’.

A child who is comfortable, safe and emotionally secure will create a palace from stones in the garden, a space station from a cardboard box!

Let us consider, first things first: Finding your MoJo?

What do we mean by ‘Your MoJo’?

Your Identity? – Your Uniqueness? – Your Self?

Call it what you will – ‘Your MoJo’ or, as a Client recently excitedly said to me: “My Magic Wand”- and another Client beautifully said: “My Intended Being.”

Use whatever name/metaphor ‘sits’ and resonates with You. I will call it MoJo in this article.

Here’s what having your ‘MoJo’ present and available to you will be like, so, please read these next sentences slowly – and the ‘key’ for you beginning to find your ‘MoJo’ will be how you respond to these sentences, in your thoughts and feelings:

Do what you want:  Anything good is achievable:  Achieve abundance and manifest happiness in your life:  Celebrate life. Start being honest with yourself:

Stop talking about other people! 

On first reading we’ll probably think: ‘Absolutely I will!’

On second or third – slow – deliberate reading – we’ll likely notice the objections coming up – as thoughts, such as: “I’m not good enough!” “I’ve tried and failed already” “Nothing works out for me!” I can’t!

These negative internal voices are one of the most important ways that we ‘lose touch’ with our ‘MoJo’.

Our ‘MoJo’ gets buried under the ‘objecting’ inner chatter in our minds.

Most of us do it!

In fact around 99% of us!!

And some of this ‘objecting’ blocking our way to happiness and celebration of our life is unconscious – we often don’t even ‘hear’ the continuous chatter – although for sure we feel the result.

We feel it in our body the churning stomach, the heaviness and tightness in our chest, pounding in our heart, a lump in our throat – and suddenly we are ‘blocked’ we are ‘stuck’ in fear. We don’t speak up, we don’t go and talk to the lovely person at a party, we don’t apply for the great job. We don’t explore, we lose our curiosity we are ‘blocked’ by fear. Our ‘MoJo’ is half ‘buried’ under the negative inner mind chatter, which plays on and on and on, bullying us.

Let’s think for a moment how we feel when we are bullied? Bullied by ‘big people’ – parents, (mostly bullying parents have good intention for us) at school maybe, – peers – people on trains and planes, people in the street! When we are not in a position to ‘stand our ground’ and retaliate, we feel ‘crushed’ – hurt, in ‘pain’ – it’s awful.

Similarly our relentless inner bullying voices ‘crush’ our self!

Polishing Our Mojo!

Do what you want, anything good is achievable, achieve abundance and manifest happiness in your life. Celebrate life. Start being honest with yourself. Stop talking about other people! 

How do we begin to achieve this state of happiness within our selves – and with others?

We begin by permanently silencing the relentless inner negative mind chatter! This is one of the most empowering things we need to do for our self. Our ‘MoJo’ will begin to become fully present, we will not become obnoxious! and we will also be safe.

There is some Great research: young children who are emotionally safe and secure are not obnoxious! They share, they are kind and generous in a healthy way.

Further important research: Positive affirmations, positive thinking, positive suggestions, relaxations, deep breathing exercises do not authentically and lastingly resolve and stop the negative inner mind chatter.

If we think of the negative inner mind chatter as being like horrid damp patches on the inside walls of our home, all the above strategies are just painting over the damp. It will feel good, refreshed and comfortable – for a few hours! Then a friend comes along and says: “Hey let’s go and do this….” And up comes the ‘damp’ – the “I can’t” “I’m not good enough” “I’m too nervous, scared……”

Thoroughly fixing the ‘damp’ takes some time – time that will be oh so rewarding and self-empowering. It’s like we need to take a journey to trace the ‘damp’ – ladders out, get onto the roof, find the broken roof tiles and remove and replace them! The new replaced tiles will last a century!

To make this an easy, enjoyable journey for you I have made these short videos – with my ‘Top Tools’ for you to find and free your ‘MoJo’ empower your self and truly achieve and manifest happiness in your life.

My top tips videos are all on youtube –  here is the link:

Warmest wishes

Sally

sally@sally-stubbs.com

 

Make 2015 an Outstanding Year for You!

Thursday, January 8th, 2015

outstanding energy

Would you like a happier 2015?
Wikipedia quotes: “Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”
Could our Happiness possibly be about choice?

I believe we do have the choice. I promise you from my ‘Heart’ – I am not being flippant here. And being outstandingly happy 24/7 would be ludicrous – because we do have the challenges, the uncertainties and absolutely we do have the sadness. Yet: we can learn to give straight, focused time to the challenges and the uncertainties and we can accept that it is healthy for our ‘Heart’ to feel sadness.
If we can consider briefly for a few moments – when we were babies and when we were young children – as long as we were well, warm, fed – physically comfortable And we were experiencing emotional stability, we were in a state of mental & emotional contentment – which, when we saw, heard, smelt, tasted, touched on something exciting, beautiful, intriguing, contentment could range to joy.

When we were ‘at one with our world’ and ‘our world was at one with us’ we were content…………..
Today we were going to explore – the ‘how’ to solve, resolve and ‘heal’ our ‘inner’ objections to our Happiness.

I think we need a couple more things in place before we take this step.
I’ll talk about these couple of ‘steps’ in a moment, because resolving our ‘objections’ to Happiness does take effort.

Enjoyable effort actually, because the effort has immeasurable rewards for our life – the reward being that life can be experienced as a stable inner sense of contentment – no matter the challenges and bewilderments in life.

Just to recap:
When you are answering the questions: And when I am happy – how do I know that I am happy? – and you then choose to answer the question through your own knowing – of some past experience – your thoughts and your feelings You then also ‘note’ the inner objections, such as: ‘Yeah but I’m so worrying about…’ ‘Yeah but I’m really stressing about….’ ‘Yeah but I feel ignored by this person…’ ‘Yeah but – I can’t say “No”…’ ‘Yeah but I can’t sleep…….’
Our inner objections to our Happiness are valid.

Each objection needs our careful attention – to solve resolve, and heal correctly – and permanently.
So before we explore the ‘how’ to do this – let’s spend another week – for a few minutes a day ‘firming up’ our inner ability and resourcefulness to access our thoughts and feelings of Happiness.

Ideally we would do this – access inner happiness for twenty minutes every hour & a half!

If you are the type of person who likes facts go look up my teacher Dr Ernest Rossi on google – Ultradian Rhythms. Natural rhythms in our amazing brain – every hour & a half throughout the 24 hours our brain wants & needs to rest, totally in a state of contentment for 20 minutes. None of us will take this amount of time in our – oh so busy schedules – to rest & feel content within our self – leaving the world to ‘grind on’ with its problems! You can choose to do the 20 minutes Ultradian rest once a day?

Here’s my free gift for you – my 20 minute story for you – to rest and make your life happier.
Enjoy:) Enhance Your Happiness

And the other ‘step’ for you this week:

Explore your own beliefs – you can choose to feel happy – it is a choice!

The only times happiness is not a choice are:
1) When our inner objections are not resolved with the right attention.
2) When we are literally in physical danger, when we have to ‘run like mad, or fight’.
3) When we are genuinely grieving the loss of a loved one

Wishing you enjoyment on your ‘steps’ towards your Happiness.
warmly

Sally

sally@sally-stubbs.com

GOLDEN BULLETS!

Thursday, July 26th, 2012

Let’s talk about enhancing your happiness.

Let’s not put a ceiling on happiness hey! I don’t! It’s interesting to think about our happiness, it’s not quantifiable, and yet it’s not theoretical. We cannot hold it or control. Yet – It is real. Biochemically we can measure it, in a certain way! We can ‘feed’ our happiness, nourish it and grow it.
And do you know, not once in 30 years of my Work, no one has ever come to me and said: “I’ve got too much happiness can you help to cure it!”

MY GOLDEN BULLETS TO NURTURE AND NOURISH OUR HAPPINESS:
• Check our beliefs.
• Our Beliefs drive a massive part of our behaviour
• Our Beliefs are often unconscious, that is we do not consciously know we have them!
• So when we set our goal to achieve X Y Z, for example lose weight, assert our self with our ‘snarly’ boss and we failed with that goal in the past – we will probably have a belief that we will ‘Fail Again’.
• No matter how much ‘get up and go’, up beat energy, determination we think we have to achieve our goal, our behaviours will be driven by our unconscious ‘I’m a failure’ belief
GOLDEN BULLET TO HAVE POSITIVE BELIEFS:
If you have been Working with repeating to your self a truism like my example:
“It is healthy and also nice to be calm.”
Now begin to Work with a positive affirmation like my example: “I’m going to be really, really calm! (….when I assert myself with my daughter, or boss, or neighbour….)”
• The use and purpose of positive affirmation is to ‘bring up’ into our conscious mind and awareness any objecting negative beliefs that we may have, so that we can do something about them and change them.
• Positive affirmations do not create positive beliefs to achieve our goal. And if we have no negative beliefs we don’t blimin’ well need to waste our time with positive affirmation, we simply act and achieve!
• Here’s the absolute ‘gold’: – as you say your affirmation, be exquisitely sensitive, which I know you are, to your immediate next thought.
(By the way I don’t think I’ve mentioned that a few years ago I contacted several neuroscience departments in universities asking: What is the speed of thought?
One answer is: Less than one tenth of a second.
So you need to slow down to get some of those thoughts, or you’ll miss them.
My free download story will help you to slow down your thoughts
• If your very next thought is objecting – to your affirmation – this objection will be your negative belief – which will have it’s foundation in some kind of failure……
• Write down your objecting thoughts (negative beliefs) – and Work to discover your solutions to them.
• Remember that a lot of our negative behaviour patterns are driven by our negative beliefs, and we can change them.
• You can also Work with one of my 40 day courses, this will help you enormously.
• Once we get to know our negative beliefs we have choice. We can choose to change them.
• When we really get to understand our deep inner belief systems, particularly about our self, we can choose to have only those beliefs that are supportive of our self and celebrate our life, enhancing our happiness.
• We can choose to stop having those beliefs that are self condemning or self invalidating.

MORE GOLDEN BULLETS TO SUCCEED:
More on goal setting.
• Goal setting takes time.
So we’ll remind ourselves about goals.
• What do successful people have in common?
• They know their goal, they know what they want to achieve.
• When we set our selves a goal to achieve, we need to make sure we state, or write it down in the positive.
• And, speak your goal out loud, congruently, our DNA responds to sound.
• So, an example of what I mean. Chanting internally: “I Will stop being angry with X or Y”, will inevitably lead to anger with X or Y. Because the brain has ‘heard’ the word anger, the brain will attempt to access that behaviour.
• So, the goal needs to be stated as something like: I really want to be understanding and supportive of X or Y.
By the way if anger is an issue for you or someone close to you my 40 day End Anger Course on CD’s and MP3 is about Ending anger, not controlling or managing anger, permanent resolution, Cures that Endure.
• Goal setting needs our attention, to nurture our emotions.
A simple goal might be: I want to lose weight.
• We need to check attentively with our emotions that the words we use are in harmony with every part of us.
So, someone for example who has sadly had a huge loss, maybe of a loved one, the word lose, as in lose weight could be deeply uncomfortable to say the least.
And part of the persona will emotionally resist the word lose, and the weight will not change, or may even get worse.
This is how important the words we use in goal setting are. In this example the words for this goal may need to be something like: I want to become slim, strong and healthy!
When our negative thoughts and negative beliefs are also ‘woven’ into emotional ‘pain’, hurt, suffering – please do Work with one of my 40 day courses. No matter the issue you are dealing with Judith all my 40 day courses will take you to a safe place and space where you can and will resolve, safely, your ‘pain’ And you do not need to know, or remember what caused your ‘pain’
I’m still Working on being a real Revolutionary!
Enjoy your ‘gold’
Thinking of you warmly
Sally
Cures that Endure

My personal and private e mail: sally@sally-stubbs.com

News and Star Newspaper article

Tuesday, March 22nd, 2011

The article printed in one of our local newspapers to celebrate the launch of my new book, If Life Gives You Lemons.

My theories and CD courses also get a mention, so thanks to Roger (reporter) and Kevin (photographer) for their work
http://bit.ly/eh7RZY

If Life gives you Lemons… listen to Sally on Radio Cumbria!

Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

Listen to Sally Stubbs on Radio Cumbria talking about her highly anticipated book “If Life Gives You Lemons”

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Book Launch If Life Gives You Lemons

Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

And so my dream comes true my first book “If Life Gives You Lemons…” will be published this month and available to buy from Amazon on the 17th of March

This is so great to be speaking to you. Thank you…..

My Dads family are from the South of Ireland. They are a sentimental, loving, contrary, quirky – happy family of story tellers. Stories, about all and everything, abounded when I was little. I always wrote, filling tiny note books and scraps of paper, kept safe under my pillow, in my school bag in a drawer in my room, secure under my untidy stuff. I was never invited to speak them; this was for the adults to do.

In January 1997, living in Singapore, I started to write my first book. It came to me in an extraordinary Epiphany in a dream, that I must write a book. I can tell you about the dream some time if you’d be interested? Let me know if you’re interested on my Face Book page from the website.

It took me two years to write my first book whilst we were in Singapore. I started to find my voice. And my voice is the voice of the eighteen year old me, that part of me made a very clear decision that I want to stop emotional suffering. I believed and still do clearly believe that we all have a right to happiness.

I will continue my story on my next Blog in a few days…..