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Make 2019 The Year For You!

Monday, November 12th, 2018

free mojoWould you like to be happier in 2019?
Wikipedia quotes: “Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”
Could our Happiness possibly be about choice? Of course, because it really is up to us to be happy:)

I believe we do have the choice. I promise you from my ‘Heart’ – although being outstandingly happy 24/7 would be ludicrous – because we do have the challenges, the uncertainties and absolutely we do have the sadness. Yet: we can learn to give straight, focused time to the challenges and the uncertainties and we can accept that it is healthy for our ‘Heart’ to feel sadness.
If we can consider briefly for a few moments – when we were babies and when we were young children – as long as we were well, warm, fed – physically comfortable And we were experiencing emotional stability, we were in a state of mental & emotional contentment – which, when we saw, heard, smelt, tasted, touched on something exciting, beautiful, intriguing, contentment could range to joy.

When we were ‘at one with our world’ and ‘our world was at one with us’ we were content…………..
Today we were going to explore – the ‘how’ to solve, resolve and ‘heal’ our ‘inner’ objections to our Happiness.

I think we need a couple more things in place before we take this step.
I’ll talk about these couple of ‘steps’ in a moment, because resolving our ‘objections’ to Happiness does take effort.

Enjoyable effort actually, because the effort has immeasurable rewards for our life – the reward being that life can be experienced as a stable inner sense of contentment – no matter the challenges and bewilderments in life.

Just to recap:
When you are answering the questions: And when I am happy – how do I know that I am happy? – and you then choose to answer the question through your own knowing – of some past experience – your thoughts and your feelings You then also ‘note’ the inner objections, such as: ‘Yeah but I’m so worrying about…’ ‘Yeah but I’m really stressing about….’  ‘Yeah but – I can’t say “No”…’ ‘Yeah but I can’t sleep…….’
Our inner objections to our Happiness are valid.

Each objection needs our careful attention – to solve resolve, and heal correctly – and permanently.
So before we explore the ‘how’ to do this – let’s spend another week – for a few minutes a day ‘firming up’ our inner ability and resourcefulness to access our thoughts and feelings of Happiness.

Ideally we would do this – access inner happiness for twenty minutes every hour & a half!

If you are the type of person who likes facts go look up my teacher Dr Ernest Rossi on google – Ultradian Rhythms. Natural rhythms in our amazing brain – every hour & a half throughout the 24 hours our brain wants and needs to rest, totally in a state of contentment for 20 minutes. None of us will take this amount of time in our – oh so busy schedules – to rest & feel content within our self – leaving the world to ‘grind on’ with its problems! You can choose to do the 20 minutes Ultradian rest once a day?

Here’s a link for you to my course which need to use for only half an hour a day to make your life happier.
Enjoy:) Enhance Your Happiness

And the other ‘step’ for you this week:

Explore your own beliefs – you can choose to feel happy – it is a choice!

The only times happiness is not a choice are:
1) When our inner objections are not resolved with the right attention.
2) When we are literally in physical danger, when we have to ‘run like mad, or fight’.
3) When we are genuinely grieving the loss of a loved one

Wishing you enjoyment on your ‘steps’ towards your Happiness.
warmly

Sally

sally@sally-stubbs.

www.sally-stubbs.com

Strategy 5 – Deconstructing Negative Inner Dialogue

Thursday, June 25th, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

So here is my next Top Tip Video – Number Five in this Special Series of powerful strategies to deconstruct those negative inner dialogues.
Here I am again!! – I don’t ever give up on you – I’m back with you for a few immeasurably valuable minutes!
Why are these minutes with me so valuable as to be beyond ‘measure’?

Yeah: truly the most powerful thing you can ever do for your self – is to end the seemingly ‘endless’ negative inner chatter, inner ‘bullying’ and free yourself to be yourself – no more lies about yourself in your head!

The lies we ‘hang onto’, often not even knowing we are telling our self lies about our self, are like a damn, damning up, our natural life force flow!

So I’ve renamed these awesome Top Tips, as Golden Keys – they’re not just bl**dy Tips – they are powerful, empowering of your self – they un-damn the damned up natural energy life force flow within you – as with the ‘turn of a Golden Key’ – Click-Unlock!

If you have not been using my first 4 Golden Keys – hey – go do it now! Free your self from the damaging negative inner chatter. I promise you won’t find these Golden Keys in any other
Therapeutic Strategies – not anywhere. You’ll be forever grateful for my ‘Golden Keys’.

My video here will explain about ‘Golden Key’ Number 5 –

Just to recap  – you’ve deliberately, through your own choice, been taking charge of your negative inner chatter – by listing ‘Where did this one come from?’

They came from one of two places: They are messages imported into your mind from ‘big people’ in your life. Or they came from your ‘self’.

Your ‘self’ in emotionally or psychologically vulnerable situations will create inner negative dialogues in an attempt to keep our self ‘safe’.

Such as my example, we say to our self: ‘I’d better keep quiet, not speak up – or they will get annoyed with me – they won’t like, they won’t accept me, they won’t love me’.

Result is that this self-imposed injunction plays on and on – deep in our minds – and we refer to our self as ‘shy’ ‘withdrawn’ ‘scared to speak up’ – ‘I have a tightening in my throat’, ‘there’s a churning in my stomach’ ‘I’m not breathing properly, my heart is pounding’.

The ‘negative inner chatter & bullying of our self’ that came from others – you’ve been recognizing as ‘their messages’ and choosing to return these messages to ‘them’.

Now you need to negotiate with the part of your self who created these negative dialogues.
Negotiation is the ‘Golden Key’ here. Imagine your ‘younger’ self who created this negative dialogue – say to this fragment or part of your self – congruently ‘I understand…….. (you were scared, frightened….)’
Work your way gently – towards being able to say: ‘It’s now safe to give this up…..’

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Wishing you inner freedom to know and to experience your own beautiful future…………

I Love hearing from you:  sally@sally-stubbs.com 

“I don’t think there is any such thing as an ordinary mortal. Everybody has his own possibility of rapture in the experience of life. All he has to do is recognize it and then cultivate it and get going with it. I always feel uncomfortable when people speak about ordinary mortals because I’ve never met an ordinary man, woman, or child.”
― Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth.

Warmly

Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy – ‘Cures that Endure’

www.sally-stubbs.com

Strategy 4 – Deconstructing Negative Inner Dialogue

Monday, June 8th, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

So: here is my next Top Tip Video – Number Four in this Special Series of powerful strategies to deconstruct those negative inner dialogues.

Here I am again! – back with you for a few important, incalculably valuable minutes.

Here’s another Top Tip – for your consideration – and for you to act upon – I can honestly tell you that my Top Tips ‘Rock’!

I’ve had a ‘Scratchy’ feeling for a while now that ‘Tops Tips’ is a lame, not worthy, description for these
Strategies – because, I promise you, give them the time & they will ‘turn your life around’ in a most empowering, freeing and beautiful way for your self.

Hey! I got it! – the description – I ‘got it’ in a Trance State of course!

These empowering of you strategies are actually called ‘Golden Keys’.
They ‘unlock’ your immeasurable potential to enjoy celebrating your life – They ‘open the door to the prison’ where the constant inner negative chatter & ‘bullying’ of your self has had you confined and ‘caged’.

These ‘Golden Keys’ Free you to be your self – secure and happy in your skin. I’ve been working on them for you in such a way as they will not be time consuming.

You know – I’m quite a strange person!!!
I rigorously validate any strategy for Freedom and Healing.
And – choose to believe in a Great Mysterious Universal Intelligence.

I choose to believe in Master of Wisdom – in Angles – blimey I like to believe in Santa Claus!

What I fully believe in, is you – your Great Intelligence and Wisdom – inherent within you to Free & Heal your Self.

So; get going TODAY – here’s my video with the ‘Golden Key’ that this series of videos has been leading up to …………….

ENJOY!

These ‘Golden Keys’ to your Freedom – they are Exclusive – no other Therapy has them.

Please – go and visit the Amazing, Brilliant, Famous, Dr Tranquility – support her in her Awesome efforsts to bring True Healing to us all.

She is also Great Fun, upbeat – and full of valuable ideas and advice for you. She always has Hope in her voice.

Thank You.
www.drtranquility.com

Wishing you inner freedom to experience your own beautiful future ………………..

Please email me privately any time, I love receiving your emails. sally@sally-stubbs.com

Warmly

Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy ‘Cures that Endure’

www.sally-stubbs.com

Strategy 2 – Deconstructing Negative Inner Dialogue

Monday, May 18th, 2015

inner power
Remember my BIG NEWS! – was my live Broadcast for Dr. Tranquility Dr. Series Radio broadcast on 5th May – and it was Brilliant!
Here’s the link for you – just click and enjoy

We had a phone-in during the broadcast from a lovely girl with a beautiful name – she’s called Sally!

I just have to tell you that Dr. Tranquility, she is Dr. Lydia Belton, is truly Amazing.
She is achieving so, so much in the world’s needs for Healing by bringing together, from all around the globe the Greatest Healers of our time. And – hey – guess what – I’m there with them………… Awesome.
Lydia is a veritable Power House.

She likens me to a cross between Mary Poppins & Liz Hurley! Thank You Lydia:)

And I liken Lydia to a Peregrine Falcon – powerful, streamlined and focused.

So: please support her in her Quest & Vision – which, like mine – is to bring healing to wherever it is needed – click the link.  Thank You.

Once you’ve enjoyed listening to Dr Lydia & I – here for you is my next video Top Tip.

Strategy 2 in Deconstructing Negative Inner Dialogue.
The most powerful thing that you can achieve for your self on your quest, your journey to successfully achieving your goal – is to deconstruct negative inner dialogue. And this is what I’m teaching you on these short videos.

Whether you are aware of it or not – it’s there in your inner mind – playing on and on – the same damn negative thoughts over and over again thus creating blocks to your success.

You cannot override this negative dialogue – (such as the “I can’t,- nothing will work for me – I’m a failure…..”) with positive thinking and positive affirmations. Those behaviours or strategies just ‘paper over the cracks’ – the cracks are still there and will ‘show up’ sooner or later. And your goal will still be on the horizon.

Wishing  you inner freedom to know and to experience your own beautiful future and have a Great Harmonious Life.

Please email me privately I’d love to hear from you sally@sally-stubbs.com

Warmly

Sally

Rapha Hypnosis Therapy – ‘Cures that Endure’

How to Deconstruct Negative Dialogue

Tuesday, May 5th, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

Top Tips & Tasty Bites!

So back with a Top Tip as promised for you to act upon – I can honestly tell you that my Top Tips ‘Rock’!
I’ve been working on them for you in such a way as they will not be time consuming.
Such as my first one in this my new Series of ‘Quick Tasty Bites’ videos

– which was about you Dreaming Well.
We’re all of us Dreaming – even those of us who, sadly, suffer with Insomnia – we still Dream.
So: we may as well Direct our Unconscious mind into the Wisdom we have within – to discover Solutions and Resolutions to our mind-emotional problems as we Dream.
It’s here if you missed it.

In this next video (Top Tip 2) I explain as briefly and succinctly as I can how you will begin to stop and to
change your internal negative dialogue.
Why?
Because a large part of any mind-emotional problem we’re having to deal with – often day in and day out, like that phrase I’m really keen on: “The emotional ground hog day!” – is being ‘driven’ on and on by our negative internal dialogue.

For us to learn how to stop it and change is a game changer – its life changing!

That old negative internal dialogue does come from what we’ve learnt and what we’ve experienced – stuff that ‘stinks’!
It’s telling us that ‘the world is so and so….’
And it’s telling us ‘I, in the world am so and so……or such and such……’ (bad: useless: a failure: not heard: frightened: anxious……)
This negative internal dialogue plays on and on relentlessly, sometimes we don’t even ‘hear’ it. It’s telling us about our ontology – meaning our “I am- ness” – who/what I AM!
Whatever our internal negative dialogue is ‘saying’ it is not the truth!

Are you thinking of arguing with me!!??
Honestly, if you ‘drill down’ you’ll discover this ‘stinky’ inner dialogue is not the Truth.

A little bit like this: I Sally, failed lots of exams at school!

Inner dialogue expands on this with: Sally you’re useless at learning!
Sally, you’ll never make anything of yourself! Sally you are…blah de blah……
The truth: I wasn’t engaged with or interested in loads of subjects, and yes I did fail them.

But what does engage me I have Awesome concentration and expansive ability to learn!
Simple example I know – so please throw at me a more profound example and we’ll still ‘drill down’ to the truth.
This Top Tip truly “Rocks!” Please go & watch ‘Deconstruct Negative Dialogue’..

Wishing you inner freedom to know and to experience your won beautiful future.

Please email me privately I’d love to hear from you sally@sally-stubbs.com

Warmly
Sally

Sally Stubbs – Rapha Therapy – ‘Cures that Endure’

The Rapha Therapy System & The Role of Metaphor

Monday, April 20th, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

I made myself smile hugely as I thought to call this video for you:
‘RAPHA IN ‘A NUTSHELL’!

Then realized you might not want to ‘go anywhere near’ what’s in a nut shell – the nut!! (the link to the video is at the bottom of this page)
Well: that idiom means: to ‘describe in as few words as possible’.
And – yeah…. I’ve done it! The video is 7 and a half minutes as I know your time is precious – and you are busy I’m sure.
So I’d say this video is BIG NEWS! – a rare opportunity for me to describe for you – in a ‘nut shell’!!! – my 30 years of rigorous, robust, enjoyable work and passion to fulfill my Vision to create my RAPHA Therapy System – which permanently – (worth repeating) – permanently – Resolves mind-emotional problems, suffering and ‘pain’.
Here’s my understanding of RAPHA:
RAPHA Rocks!
And, when you journey with me on one of my RAPHA Audio Courses – (take a look at my available courses –  there are more to come) – you take a safe, rewarding, self-empowering journey into your very own inner worlds – you mobilise your own dormant or hidden inner strengths, resources, and inner self certainty – changing your thinking and your feelings and how you are, so you celebrate your life ‘in your skin’.
Gary Hogg has said a number of times: “It’s a fun journey!”
As you’ve perhaps got to know me – you’ll know that I am not interested in ‘quick, fast therapy’ – it does not last!
I want lasting success for you.
You also possibly know me as a really, really upbeat person? Which perhaps can socially get a bit tedious for others when they’re down or in a grump – and I focus on the light and the bright in life!
Well, I am really upbeat recently as we have just topped making connections with and reaching out to over a million people worldwide. Awesome!
Next time we’ll have a short video for you of me and ‘Scoff’ – an amazing young man who has been working with my RAPHA Audio Course ‘Solutions to Stress’.
If you’re anything like me – a small warning – Scoff will move you to a few tears – of relief!
Wishing you every success and the freedom to happily be your self………….
So … the Video: It’s here- the Four Stages to Permanent Resolution of Your Problem
Please email me privately any time I’d love to hear from you sally@sally-stubbs.com
Warmly
Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy  “Cures that Endure”

 

How Rapha Works – Building Positive Beliefs

Monday, March 30th, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

Rapha Therapy System Video 5 – Building Positive Beliefs

ENJOY my video – another short ‘tasty bite’: a ‘wondrous aroma’ to ‘whet your appetite’ to join me on my RAPHA – inner journey –
on one of my 12 Audio Therapy Courses – your Goal being now – Present!
Just one important point to make here – as I have been asked this loads of times:
“What if I want to lose 6 stone of weight? I won’t do that in 40 days?”
Correct! No! You won’t and it would be horribly unhealthy if you attempted this! To lose around 6 stone in weight will take around 120 days – healthily and carefully.
However – a hugely different however – after the 40 days my people who want to lose more than 9 to 12 pounds – (9 to 12 pounds in 40 days is a healthy weight loss) will know by 40 days that they will –and that their Successful Goal will be ‘in reach’
No more mind whirling cogitations of the fears and ‘What if’s’ and ‘Yeah but’s’! The mind will be as clear and certain as with a simple task – think of one that suits you – such as you know you can tie your shoe laces!

This is the only one of my half an hour a day for 40 days – that will need to continue a while longer to the actual weight loss. And, by the way – without dieting!

So: this short video is episode five of my first series – (I’ve another series to come – like we’re waiting for “Breaking Bad” or your favourite series!) This clip today is a brief overview of how my fourth RAPHA assignment – which I thoroughly teach on my Audio Therapy Courses – wonderfully brings your Goal right into your present – no longer ‘floating like a grey chimera mist on your horizon’ – alive and in your present.
What a gift hey!
Wishing you inner freedom to know and to experience your own beautiful future…………… now present.

Please email me privately any time I’d love to hear from you sally@sally-stubbs.com

Warmly

Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy – ‘Cures that Endure’

www.sally-stubbs.com

How Rapha Works – Deconstruct Negative Beliefs

Monday, March 23rd, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

Rapha Therapy System Video 4 – Deconstruct Negative Beliefs

Now is the time to BELIEVE in your ‘self’…… Enjoy my short ‘tasty bite’ fourth video clip – an overview of how you will learn with my RAPHA audio Therapy Courses – that you can truly BELIEVE in your ‘self’.
And – you can – BELIEVE in your ‘self’ – believe that your ‘self’, can – and will successfully – achieve the Goal that you want for you.
Your Goal, that maybe for quite some time – or even a long time, seems to have been floating in the grey mists on some future horizon – chimera like – almost unattainable, almost an illusion – despite all your courageous and determined efforts to ‘get there’.
What stops us?

What ‘blocks’ our onward journey to achieving our useful and beautiful Goal?

– even though we thoroughly know what our Goal is –  and we are top motivated to ‘get there’ – permanently.!

We can give an overview title to what stops us – and that is:
Our Unconscious negative self beliefs.
Negative self beliefs that we are maybe only vaguely Conscious of!
We develop within our Unconscious mind a Matrix of self beliefs in our first 7 to 14 years of life.
The negative ones do not ‘serve’ us in our life. However ‘some’ of those negative self beliefs will have had a purpose, and basically that was to keep us ‘safe’.
A very simple example; someone says: “I’m really shy! I nearly always hold myself back”.
The: “I’m shy” belief could well have been ‘formed’ within the Unconscious mind – because as a youngster, a child, this person was really out going – and the adults informed them that they must be quiet!
So the child, unconsciously, developed a state called: “Shy,” to ensure that they did not speak up or be noisy – as it was probably not ‘safe’ to upset or annoy adults!
These kinds of unconscious beliefs that originally developed to keep us safe – need a careful and also easy method to deconstruct.
This, and other negative belief deconstruction is the third assignment on my half an hour a day for 40 days RAPHA Audio Therapy Courses.
It’s a very, very important assignment. You see, this ‘negative stuff’ contained within our Unconscious Matrix – if it’s ‘not cleaned’ up, and replaced with a new self validating belief system – the negative ‘stuff’ will keep on and on projecting ‘itself’ into our future and our success will always continue to ‘float like grey mist’ on our horizon – unattainable.
On this short (7.5 min) video I explain the significance of Deconstructing Negative Beliefs. And whichever of my audio courses addresses your particular problem, I will teach you how to do just that!.
ENJOY
Please do get in touch with me privately sally@sally-stubbs.com I’ll be delighted to hear your thoughts and answer your questions.
Wishing you inner freedom to move on into your own beautiful future…………

Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy  – ‘Cures that Endure’

www.sally-stubbs.com

‘Tools’ – for You to Permanently Resolve Problems

Monday, February 16th, 2015
Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

I’m so sorry that I’ve ‘been off the radar’ for a few weeks now.
I kind of hope that you ‘missed me’!!!
I haven’t been ‘couch potato-ing’ these past weeks. I’ve been figuring out – How – I can best‘ deliver’ to you – for you or a loved one of yours – my AMAZING & Authentic ‘Tools’ – that I have rigorously studied, researched and polished for over 30 years – in an, easy for you to use, Guide – to Freeing and Healing your ‘self’ of the ‘horror’ of those mind-emotional ‘ground hog day’ fears, anxieties and problems.
So: over the weeks my ideas have been ‘incubating’ nicely – and soon I will make for your delight – a Series of short videos – around 7 minutes each –a light bite:
The videos will be an easy relaxed step by step Guide – assisting you to Free your ‘self’.
COMING SOON – as they say!
In the meantime do go and see https://www.sally-stubbs.com/blog/awesome-adam-on-video/
Adam is Brilliant. He was one of the youngest heart transplant patients ever – aged only 9.
Adam will be making another short video for us soon – he’s been really busy recently with a new job – AND – eating out, and going out and about with his girlfriend and friends! (Something he just could not do 6 months ago!)
Here’s a copy – with Adams permission of course – of an email he sent to me just after Christmas. What an Awesome gift is this email.

Please read these few powerful beautiful lines and – be inspired……..
Sally,
6 months ago a frightened child emailed you asking for help. Too afraid to eat a meal in public, too afraid to have days out with friends and loved ones. A future so bleak as to be likened to staring down the barrel of a gun.
The first few months weren’t easy, as the fears rose and receded with each session with you, and each new day faced. The child inside battled buried demons, hidden within the depths of a mind built to hide the horrors of facing death more than once.
Slowly the child grew in strength, and began to free himself of the shackles holding him within. The demons came on, daring him to stand and fight. Which he did.
Now we have the child released from fear & servitude, and the adult in his place. A dream of a man fallen into flames, and rising as a bird from said flames, to begin anew. The courage of the child which stills his fear as an adult.
Of the future? Who knows, though now there is future, no barrels pointing towards my eyes.
Thank you
With love
Adam & Azja
(Ps. Xmas meal was fantastic!)
Please do be in touch with me privately  sally@sally-stubbs.com  I’ll be delighted to hear your thoughts and questions.

Wishing you Freedom to be your   ‘self’……..

Warmly
Sally
Sally Stubbs
Rapha Therapy –  ‘Cures that Endure’

www.sally-stubbs.com

DEALING WITH FAMILY PROBLEMS AT CHRISTMAS

Wednesday, December 17th, 2014
Derwentwater with snow on fells behind

Snowfall in Keswick

Compliments of the Season to One & All:

Christmas Day – do you have a problem with step families, ex partner, or members of the family who do not get along, I am sad to say that undercurrents are still running at this time of year but I am able to offer you ideas to make the day happy, or harmonious. I’m am sure that if you do take this challenge on and follow my ‘Top Tips’ you will be so pleased with yourself and be happy. What a great achievement for you to accomplish harmony at Christmas when there could have been the horror of conflicts and disputes.
My Top Tips:
• First: You need to decide to take on the task on making Christmas Day to be happy, or harmonious.
• Having made this decision you need to set a Goal. Writing down goals is very useful.
• Write down, in your own words, the positive outcome for Christmas Day.

Something like: The day will be harmonious between me – and ‘that person’ or ‘those people’
• Never write a goal in the negative for example: There will be no fighting and fall outs on Christmas Day. Your brain will begin to access every imaginable states of fighting and fall out, and low and behold it will more than likely happen!
• Having spent some time really refining your own goal for harmony on Christmas day. Make a list of the people, however many. It might be just you and one other, or a number of people.
• In your list, no matter how it may gall you to do this, take one person at a time from you list, and tell yourself: They are difficult to relate to because they have had some difficulties. No matter how obnoxious or tricky their behaviour may have been in the past, the truth is a person is only difficult in their behaviour because they have suffered, or believe they have suffered. So, for this work to create harmony on Christmas Day, your goal is to just accept they have suffered.
• Then, and again I’m sad to say, it is you who has to be the strong one here, even though you may have had past grievances, ask yourself: What do each of these people need, or need to know so that for this one special day they can have harmony?
Examples: A step child, you may discover would like you to just ‘leave them alone’. The secret is when we realise a person needs to be just left alone we need to have a congruently calm mind about doing this. Our mind must not be chuntering in the back ground as we smile and ‘leave them alone’. They will know that we are chuntering away quietly which will lead eventually to disharmony. Maybe the Ex’s new partner would like to be admired. You may dislike her/him but you can find something to admire about them!
• Go through your list a number of times, realise that as you do this you can do it with good grace, because trust me these kinds of strategies will strengthen you in your thoughts and in your mind, and you will feel strong and calm.
• As you go through your list parts of you may object, for example to admiring the ex’s partner. So let these parts of you object, and then negotiate with those parts of yourself that what you want to achieve for the day is your goal: Harmony at Christmas.
• All this can be done believe me. It will take a little effort from you. So you need to get writing your goal and your lists – Now!
• By the way – as soon as you get focused on doing this you will have some amazing dreams whilst you’re asleep, with some great solutions and ideas. How great is that!
• Last of all when you know what everyone needs, when you know you can do this for every one, you can begin to imagine all the people having a peaceful day together…… And You achieved that…… congratulations!
Peace on Earth…..

Sally

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