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A 5 YEAR OLD’S STORY ………….

Monday, March 3rd, 2014

 

Sally Stubbs

Sally Stubbs

Here’s a Story to make us think differently!

Profoundly perhaps?

About our own life – about the problems we deal with, the ‘things’ that cause us to ‘suffer mind – emotional pain’ – such as “I can’t sleep” “I feel so nervous” “I feel so worthless…..” “I worry my self ragged”

I am certain – after 40 over years of study, research, & experience, that, unless we were ill as a child, we were not born with these problems! (And I am not naive! I can’t afford to be!)

So: ‘where did these problems come from???’
Must be our biggest Question now, why now? because, we are well into our next Revolution – the Revolution of Consciousness.

Let’s support one another in Resolving our problems. I believe that in doing our own Work – we can help change & Resolve suffering for others. Maybe by a kind of mysterious Osmosis! Mostly thru’ the Right kind of education YIKES! In the US – children age 2 & 3 are being wrongly diagnosed with Bi Polar!

Looks like I am adopting the wiles of thee Outstanding Story Teller here – by keeping you waiting so you are building your anticipation. Yeah!

Before – I begin the story – let’s briefly recap: Where do these kinds of ‘painful’ problems we are suffering come from?

Simplistically two main ‘places’:

1) As kids we will ignore the needs of our self – to conform to the needs of the adults around us, and or to our culture (I am not talking here about the ‘safe & important boundaries’ that are needed to be taught us – I am talking about the seemingly simple orders given such as: ‘Be quiet – do not speak!’ & our self becomes quiet – when in fact our self had something important to ‘speak up’ Our self – stops ‘speaking up’ & our self feels ‘shunned’ Sometimes our self will get angry at being shunned – And in a vicious cycle we are more shunned.)

2) From the: ‘Awful glare directed at us in a parents eyes’ to ‘unbearable’ abuse which causes our self to ‘hide away’ deep in our consciousness. Or, our self will ‘go live on the streets’.

All of these ‘painful’ experiences, which come ‘into us’ from an unhelpful or ‘destructive’ outer event in our life – can be Resolved. You can be doing this right now, for your self, with ‘drawing out’ your experiences in the Metaphors of your Drawings. Experiences have structure – as you Draw your Metaphors of your experiences – you gain solutions to your inner ‘conflicts’ & the structure of the experience changes.

A 5 Year Olds Story:
It was just before Christmas, seven years ago, I was sitting with a friend, he was age 5. He was snuggled up to me – a log fire crackled in front of us. He asked me if I’d like to hear his stories. Oh Yes!
“OK” he says, sitting upright, I think this is important: “Mark liked to sit on his elbow, and sometimes on an eyelash, and sometimes he liked to sit on the top of his head. Mark liked to stand on his nose, and he liked to stand on his eyebrow. Mark liked to wear his jumper upside down, and he liked to wear his trousers upside down and he liked to wear his shoes back to front. Mark did not like to upset his parents. So then Mark sat on his bottom, and he stood on his feet and he wore his jumper and his trousers and his shoes like everyone else did.”

An acquaintance of mine, a couple of years prior to me hearing the stories, had spent a summer weekend with me & Mark. She whispered conspiratorially to me: ‘Mark is Autistic’

I changed the real name of my 5 year friend – who is now 12 and a Gem of a person.
The Great, Great news is that, tho’ Mark ‘conformed’ he did not lose sense of his self. Why? I am convinced it is because of the Outstanding Intelligence of Mark’s parents. And by Intelligence I mean what the word means, the language of intelligence – interlegere: The ability to read between the lines.

With my love – my gift for you Let the Breeze Blow In – helps you to create a safe space – listen once a day for 10 days or so – it’s very relaxing of mind – and body & lasts only 2o minutes. Listen so you will ‘read between the lines’ of your own experiences. Honour the experiences – the truth: “They were yelling at me – telling me I was stupid. That really hurt….” And a lasting process begins for you of changing the structure of the experience.
I wish you lasting self empowerment in the Right way for you…….

Warmly

Sally
Sally Stubbs
‘Cures that Endure’

sally@sally-stubbs.com

METAPHORS BE WITH YOU!

Monday, February 24th, 2014
Rive Greta: Keswick

Rive Greta: Keswick

I’ve just bumped into a friend – haven’t seen him for ages – we had a 10 minute ‘craic’ – standing – in the sleeting rain – here by ‘our’ river. What he said to me – made ‘my hair stand on end’ – he said: ‘Not everybody thinks in Metaphors and symbols’ Yikes! Why wouldn’t we all think in Metaphors & symbols – when they are the ‘weft’ strands of our ‘tapestry’ of our lives!

Then I remembered something Dr. Richard Bandler said: ‘Not everybody uses their mind visually – but everybody can learn to do so.’

(Bandler is a founder of NLP – & although I think at least 80% of NLP strategies do not have thorough healing properties – there is some useful stuff in there!)

Symbols are more ‘universal’ than Metaphors – they unite cultures from a stop sign on the road – to a crucifix. Epistemological Metaphors ‘belong’ to you. They are how you uniquely know that you know – something. A single Metaphor construct can collect many years of experience, so for example, every occasion of feeling ‘lonely’. Let’s say feeling lonely was first experienced by a five year old – then every occasion throughout life – of ‘feeling lonely’ can be gathered into one form: “ When I feel lonely – it feels like a dark tunnel…’

Drawing – a dark tunnel……. Achieves much! For one thing it absolves us from having to speak about all the occasions of feeling lonely. And solutions come from the problem domain. For example – drawing a dark tunnel…… & exploring the spaces – honours YOUR knowing – and assists the discovery of a solution ‘Goodness there’s light – behind & just above………….’

As you’ve been exploring your drawing(s) – you can begin to ask your next solution orientated questions: “And – what does a grey misty cloud with some yellow above it need or need to have happen?’

As your answers and solutions come to you – you next need to ask the question “Can?”

Example Answer: “Grey misty cloud wants to become all yellow & mellow”

Question: “And – can grey misty cloud become all yellow & mellow?”
Answer: “Not yet”

Question: “What needs to happen first?”
Answer: “Cloud needs to get bigger & it needs to rain”

Question: “ And can cloud get bigger & can it rain?”
Answer: “Yes – the winds blow up and then it rains – and then the yellow sun is there all mellow”

Have in mind that your Epistemological Metaphors – your drawing(s) provide solutions that are congruent to the age at the time of the first feelings, and like the ‘cloud’ solutions, can seem simple & often childlike.

Let my Gift to you help you on this your special Drawing Journey Let the Breeze Blow In – & if you did not do so already have a read about how my stories work. You associate in the right way for you with the Metaphors in my stories.

Enjoy

“Metaphors have a way of holding the most truth in the least space” – Professor Orson Scott Carol

Metaphors be with You!

Warmly

Sally
Sally Stubbs  sally@sally-stubbs.com
‘Cures that Endure’