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Try this technique for being – Kind to your Self?

Hi Everyone,

I have just spent a week sailing the wild, wondrous West Coast of Scotland.

A week at sea, out in the elements – wind and tides (and ‘rare’ occasional sun, so sometimes the weather was ‘kind’ to us!!) – But mostly I was wearing about seven layers of clothing!

It was a completely challenging trip! The wind just kept on changing (it’s mind!!) direction – so what the heck!!!, as novice crew – my mind whirled, ‘Yikes, which rope, sheet, halyard gets attention now!!??’

Hey, how about you take a moment or two to think about something you’ve experienced recently that was fun & also Challenging!

You can watch the ‘Second Episode of Self Kindness’ here.

Take a moment to reflect – how was your own self kindness during your Challenging experience? Maybe, have a ‘listen’ back to your –perhaps unheard at the time – self dialogues? I bet you were quite grim with yourself?

Sailing, I could have given myself quite a grim time – I could have been quite obnoxiously self-critical, (I think you know how that goes?) as I am not exactly competent crew!
But what would be the point of that?

We do not become more competent by giving ourselves a grim time! When we criticise our self we are threatening our self! We automatically trigger the ‘fear’ response in our brain! Then: Our thinking starts to shut down! (And our immune system also starts to shut down!)

You & I agree on this, right! There’s no point in giving our self a grim time!!

If, which makes perfect logical sense, we decide not to be grim with our self, not to criticise our self, we can therefore really and truly decide to be kind to our self. Right!

Why be kind to our self?

Tons of reasons actually! Which it is well worth our while to keep on exploring more together.

Consider one of many reasons: Kindness that we give to others & receive from others AND give to ourselves greatly assists the production of the Amazing: Oxytoxin!

What does this amazing Neuro transmitter do for us?
Loads of Great things! (Go look it up!)

It aids in the healing of wounds, through its anti-inflammatory properties.

It aids in keeping our cardio vascular system healthy, as basically it binds onto cell receptor sites throughout our entire cardio vascular system – reducing inflammation.

It reduces Cortisol in our body – Whoopee! We could talk loads more about Oxytoxin!

So, here is one of the ‘side effects’ of prescribing self-kindness: the release of the Amazing Oxytoxin, which helps prevent us from getting sick!

These ideas that we are exploring together, & thankfully we have a great growing body of research, about self – kindness, do go ‘hand in hand’ with my ‘7 Golden Keys’ to deconstructing thoroughly our negative, destructive, inner mind dialogues.

So do go and have a look and use these brilliant ‘7 Golden Keys

You see, the Big Deal with these: My ‘7 Golden Keys’, is that the ‘Key’ of all ‘Keys’ – is how we can negotiate elegantly and authentically,  – with the negative inner mind dialogues which originally came from our self as a protection mechanism, a mechanism to ‘keep us safe’.

This part of our self – needs to be heard and deserves to be heard – and negotiated with carefully, before this protective part of our self, will ‘give up’ it’s protective dialogues.

My second video on ‘Self Kindness’ is here,  only lasts 7 minutes 

And always worth us pondering upon for a few moments:

“Tell me, what do you plan to do with your one wild precious life?” 

Wishing you the freedom to be happy with your self and celebrate your life……………



Sally Stubbs 

Rapha Therapy –  Cures that Endure

“I don’t think there is any such thing as an ordinary mortal. Everybody has his own possibility of rapture in the experience of life. All he has to do is recognize it and then cultivate it and get going with it. I always feel uncomfortable when people speak about ordinary mortals because I’ve never met an ordinary man, woman, or child.”

― Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth

I say: “Absolutely – here, here………”


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